You know how it goes… You’re waiting, waiting, waiting for those RSVPs to come back. Your mom, maid of honor, and wedding planner are all making phone calls and the caterer is bugging you for head count. You’re trying to get your table seating in order, but you’re not sure if Uncle Bob and Aunt Sally are even coming and that could throw off your entire reception plan.
It’s something like a bridal horror film the moment the bride realizes she chose the wrong RSVP date. It could end in tears and agony. Or forbidden Häagen-Dazs ice cream indulgence. And the guests don’t even know they’ve done anything wrong.
At my own wedding, I set the RSVP date a couple days before the caterer needed the final head count and I was lucky. All but two of my 350-ish guests had given me their response – but the two that were left were key family members that lived out of town and were difficult to get a hold of… to say the least!
Here are some quick ways to prevent an “RSVP horror” from happening in those critical weeks before your wedding:
1. Talk to your caterer.
Find out how much surplus food they cook and when they need your final head count. When you know that your caterer cooks an extra twenty-percent, for example, you don’t necessarily have to have those last five RSVPs turned in to know that you will have food for them even if they do show up. Bam! Bridezilla moment averted and your fiancé will thank you for not freaking out.
2. Set your RSVP return date to 1-2 weeks before your final head count is due.
This should give you plenty of time to collect the responses you need and make phone calls to those who haven’t answered by the date you requested.
Even if you don’t get all of your RSVPs on time it is going to be alright!
We had one guest at our wedding that wasn’t even invited. That’s right, we had a wedding crasher! But the funny thing is, we didn’t even realize it until we got back from our honeymoon, and then we were able to laugh about it. Love conquers all? Eh, who knows…
When it comes down to it, just relax. This is your day.