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Survive Wedding Planning: Your Chill Pill Prescription

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Survive Wedding Planning: Your Chill Pill Prescription

This week, Selwa Lukoskie, founder of SolaceSing Productions will be sharing her insight on how to relieve stress during wedding planning. Selwa founded her company out of a desire to tell other peoples’ stories through music. She helps brides and grooms relive their stories by crafting custom wedding songs.

In her words:

I was a DIY bride on a budget who planned her entire wedding from scratch. In fact, when it was all over, I was convinced that I should become a wedding planner. I don’t say this to brag. In fact, though I’m one of the most organized people I know, I’m not sure I could ever be a wedding coordinator. The process of planning my own wedding was very stressful, because I wanted it to be the most perfect day of my life. After all, I was only going to do this once (assuming all goes well).

Through it all, I realized how important it is to minimize your stress level. Even if you don’t do it alone, it can be a very nerve wracking process, and it’s crucial for your health and for the happiness of all involved that you remain at peace. Here are some tips on overcoming stress that I garnered from my own wedding planning experience:

Hire a wedding planner

Wedding planners do it for a living, and they work with multiple brides at one time.
They have connections to vendors and are often able to secure lower prices on goods and services. If you can work a wedding coordinator into your budget, it can save you a lot of time and headache in the end, as they will be in charge of all the little details. This will leave you to focus on the bigger stuff, such as who to invite and where to buy the perfect wedding gown. And, you’ll have more time to spend with your future husband. Remember, he is the reason you’re doing all of this in the first place.

Enlist the help of your wedding party

If you can’t afford to hire a wedding planner, you can still ask your friends, family, and bridesmaids for help. Invite them over for an afternoon and devote a few hours to addressing those wedding invitations. I had a hard time asking my bridesmaids for help, because I didn’t want to inconvenience them. But if they don’t want to help you, they wouldn’t have said yes to being in your wedding in the first place. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Treat yourself to a spa day

Get a massage; or a facial; or a manicure and pedicure; or splurge and get all four. You’ve put a lot of hard work into planning this occasion and you deserve to relax. Spa days also make great bridesmaid gifts if you’re at a loss on how to say thanks to your girlfriends for all their help.

Be prepared

No wedding is perfect. Things can and will go wrong, so prepare for it. Pack an emergency kit that includes deodorant, breath mints, makeup, a nail file, extra pantyhose, a mirror, dental floss, and anything else you think you might need at the last minute. If you have children in your wedding, be prepared for the unexpected. I received this piece of advice from our wedding director a few months before our big day: “Tell yourself, over and over that you’re going to have the best day of your life, no matter what happens, and you will have the best day of your life, no matter what happens.” She was right.

Remember who, and what, this is really all about

You can’t please everyone. Though you’ll probably have friends and family members insisting that you implement their “two cents” into your ceremony or reception, in the end, your wedding day is about two people: you and your groom. Ultimately, it comes down to the two of you and your unique love story.

As a singer/songwriter, music is my solace in times of stress. Before I was even engaged, I had decided to write a song for my future husband and surprise him with it on our wedding day. Throughout the wedding planning process, I would sit down and play this song, to remind myself of our story, and why I was doing this. The excitement over seeing his face when it played during our first dance was both comforting and motivating. If you find yourself stressed over the little details of your wedding day, go back and relive the bigger picture – your story – the best way you know how. Your wedding day will go by so fast that most of the little details will disappear from your memory. What will remain is what is most important: your husband, your relationship, and your story.

For more information

If you’d like Selwa to help you relive your story by writing a special custom wedding song, please visit her website at www.solacesing.com, or email her at Selwa@solacesing.com

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It’s all in the details… maybe?

It’s all in the details… maybe?

I’m not going to lie, I love details. Anything fuzzy, sparkly, small, intriquite, intriguing and delicate. Love, love! So as you can imagine, putting together my wedding this spring caused a few headaches…

One such headache came on the morning of my first dress fitting. I had an appointment at noon, and I didn’t have shoes. At all. Because my wedding was at the end of March, I had procrastinated so badly in this, debating whether or not to buy closed-toe boots in case of a far too common Michigan snowstorm, or if I should go with the traditional elegant heels in hopeful anticipation of decent weather.

When the stores opened at 10, I knew I had just over an hour and a half to find the perfect pair. Elegant, classy, and comfortable, with just a little something to make them perfect. Details. Oh, and they had to be ivory to match my dress.

So I began my rampage at the local mall, running from store to store several times, trying on shoes and annoying the sales associates by asking for different colors and sizes that clearly didn’t exist… I tried! On my third run to Macy’s I found a pair on the clearance rack that were perfect–all except for the size, so the sales associate there politely called all of the other local Macy’s stores and asked if they carried my size. There was one pair left at the mall across town and I had 45 minutes to go before my appointment.

I’m sure I drove like a maniac. And I’m sure that in my crazy bridezilla head all I could think about was how my dress would be altered incorrectly if I didn’t have my wedding shoes when I went to try on the dress. So I got to Macy’s, ran to the shoe department, asked for the shoes by name, bought them and left to go to my dress alteration appointment.

After arriving, I realized I had a problem. The shoes were the wrong color.

Can you believe it?

I must have had fifteen minutes to go when I saw a DSW and was able to go inside and immediately find my wedding shoes.

(thanks for the photo, LVL Photography!)

After all of that, it only took 15 minutes to find my wedding shoes and the color, height and sparkle were just right. And they didn’t even have to alter the length of the dress.

Weddings can be very stressful, but at the end of the day, you will be married. And nothing can stop that, not even an elusive detail.

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